The person we both know does not remember Gordon! Ha! His email, upon my description of Gordon as your typical white grad student boy who speaks slowly, was "No wonder I forget him! Slow homophobic pasty talker."
Be happy this is not our reality (at least, mostly it isn't, overtly it isn't). Rejoice in the people and experiences and things that make your pie yours. Pies I like! But I prefer cake.