Advise, please: how to be supportive of friends when what they want/need for themselves is not what you want/need for yourself or for your view of the relationship, even if you know and understand perfectly well what they want/need is for the best, you empathize, sympathize, etc. with what they want/need.
E.g., "I know you hate your job and you are miserable, but don't leave - I'll miss you."
Also it forces me to admit my master plan of bringing all of my favorite poeple to Champaign-Urbana (well, my favorite Americans, anyway) is failing. By the end of this summer I'll be down, like, five. Unsatisfactory.
